It started when I was a teenager. A well intentioned church leader brought in a jar, a bag of big rocks, a bag of pebbles and a bag of sand. She then proceeded to demonstrate how if you put in the big rocks first (prayer, scripture study- your relationship with God.) and then added in the smaller rocks (school, work etc.) and only then added the sand (hobbies, activities etc.) would everything fit. If you tried to fill the jar in any other order there was no way to make everything fit.
I walked out thinking that as long as I put God first everything else would fall into place.
So, God first then.
After I got married and then had kids my pile of big rocks began to grow.
Feed, clothe, nurture the kids
Make my relationship with my husband a priority
But still God first.
For many years this analogy served me well. I would gather my big rocks and place them in my jar one by one most days, and still have room for the smaller rocks:
And even lots of sand. Although often the pebbles and the sand were interchangeable depending on my own needs, my family’s needs, and the needs of my neighbors. For me, time alone can bump itself up to a big rock on some days.
But still, God and family first.Continue Reading